Advanced Search

If you are looking for a person that matches some of your personal preferences, you can use our Advanced Search Feature to narrow the field.  For example, if you are interested in meeting someone from the Catholic community who wants to have a family one day, and who is also between the ages of 24 and 30, you can search for just such a match.  If you do not want to meet anyone who smokes, you can narrow the search to non-smokers. 

It's Better Than Sitting In a Crowded, Noisy Bar

Once you have narrowed your search down to people whose profiles match your preferences, this is where the fun begins.  Sit back in your jammies with a warm cup of tea and peruse what you find in our online Catholic community of singles just like you.  Read profiles, listen to audio messages, watch video messages, check out pictures.  If you find someone who catches both your eye and your interest, you can simply send them a little message introducing yourself.  A friendship, or something more, can start with the click of a mouse. 

What Do I Say?

That first contact with a stranger is difficult, we know.  But here are some tips for breaking the ice: 

1) Be Natural: Stay relaxed, and keep it light.  Remember, you don't have the awkwardness of being face to face, so you can sound as eloquent as you wish. 

2) Short and Sweet: Introduce yourself, give a little bit of background about your life, maybe crack a joke.  Breezy and easy.  Just a few lines or a brief paragraph or two will suffice. 

3) Make a Compliment:  Compliment the person, let them know that you have read their profile and have truly found them interesting and want to correspond with them. 

4) Be Normal: Okay, yes, we said to compliment the person, but of course, keep the compliments and comments appropriate and easygoing.  A simple "You have a beautiful smile and I bet you have a great laugh," is enough.  Or "I am impressed that you practice Tai Chi. I have always wanted to try it myself." We shouldn't have to say it, but please don't be creepy.

5) Wrap It Up: Finally, leave an opening for the person to respond.  "I enjoy cooking as well, what is your favorite recipe?" is good.  Or even "Today at work this guy spilled coffee all over the boss.  It was the funniest moment of my day.  Did anything special make you laugh today?"  Ask a question, and you shall receive an answer.  A correspondence is born.

6) Talk By Phone: Once you both have established a comfortable rapport, you may wish to begin conversing by phone.  Be careful about giving out personal contact information, of course, and only give it to someone you truly trust.  Then, have a few nice phone conversations to get to know the person a little better.  Soon it will be time to . . .

7) Meet In Person:  When you are both ready to finally meet face to face, plan to meet in an open, public place that is neutral ground for both of you.  A simple coffee date is a good start.  For that first date, check out our Flirting Tips For The Catholic Single Girl and our article Creative Dating Ideas For The Catholic Single. 

Now, go out there and have fun!